We didn't hear anything about the birthmother who would be viewing our profile until the following Monday. They ended up not going to see her because of bad weather and roads. I was called Monday morning (March 5) by the woman who job shares with our social worker. She then called late in the afternoon to tell me that the birthmother had decided for the present only to look at childless couples. I never heard anything more, so she must have made her decision without looking at the families with children.

We weren't too disappointed. It really was a bad time for us with the recent death of my mom. I was able to travel to visit my sister and help her do estate stuff without worrying about a newborn baby and a toddler. Spending eight days without my daughter was bad enough. She seemed to do fine during the transition. While I was away she would occasionally ask for me. Every evening my husband called from home on the speaker phone so I could hear her talk and play in the background. Once I returned home she woke up many times in the morning and from naps asking for Daddy. A couple times she started crying for him. Once I even called him at work so she could hear his voice.

She's really been increasing her vocabulary lately. Yesterday she identified her daddy's "mustache" for the first time without any reminders. Today she pointed out a woman's "coffee" on her own. Later she tore apart a leaf and said "piece" for the first time. She's also putting adjectives in front of nouns. She'll say "big blanket" or "big car" without us telling her they are big. She also uses possessive adjectives like "mommy's cup." She said, "no poop." yesterday after I changed a wet diaper. I've been finding it very interesting to see how she makes connections on her own. Language development is so intriguing. It's neat to see how things change day by day.

Yesterday our social worker called with another potential birthmother's information. This woman is from an office in a different city, and wants to choose a family that doesn't live in her immediate area. The baby isn't due until July 20(the day after my daughter's 2nd birthday.) The situation sounds good. The birthmother's been meeting with the agency since November and is serious about adoption. She and the baby are both healthy. The birthfather will not protest the adoption. There is a medical disorder that could be passed on to the baby from its mother. The likelyhood of the baby developing the condition is 5-10%. We decided that since it is treatable, and people with the disorder can lead normal lives, we will pursue adopting the baby.

The odds of us getting chosen are not the greatest. Our office is sending at least six other profiles and other offices will be sending theirs in too. We don't fit exactly what the birthmother is seeking either. She prefers a childless couple coming from a church background a bit different from ours. So we'll once again show our profile knowing that the only reason we will be chosen is if that baby is the one God wants us to parent.

Our agency's office plans to mail out the profiles later today, so it may be a while before we hear anything back.