Our social worker called me today with information about a potential birthmother due in late October. She is working with a different office than mine. They are looking for more profiles to show her since their office doesn't have many people who want an open adoption.

The situation sounds really good, and we meet all the things that she is looking for except for one thing that to me isn't very significant. It mainly has to do with the interests/talents of the potential adoptive father than with the ability to parent.

This potential birthmother decided on adoption early in her pregnancy and has been having counseling at the agency for two months. My social worker said that they normally don't show profiles this early in the pregnancy. The potential birthmother wants a fully open adoption, so she wants to get to know the adoptive parents during her pregnancy.

The openness is scary for me, but I'm trusting that if this situation is the right one for us we will have plenty of opportunities to be sure about it before the baby is even born. If this birthmother is as committed as she appears and as the agency says, we will have more assurance that she has made up her mind about placing and won't be as likely to change her mind.

My husband said that he doesn't want to get too excited, and I'm thinking that way too. It's exciting that there is something going on, something to think about and hope for, but it's hard to know that more disappointment could be headed our way.